A True Legacy - Grieving in Estranged Families
I had a few days in a row where I saw quite a few foxes. I felt quite bonded to them. I was savouring each moment I saw one. It felt like...
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Lola Jane Thorne: Writing
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 2910 min read
Nurturing Your Inner Voice: Transforming Criticism into Compassion
Transform your inner critic into a supportive voice. Through self-compassion and reparenting, set self-boundaries that nurture.
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 202 min read
A Love Note to Mamas: Embracing Motherhood Through Surrender and Finding Peace
In a world where motherhood is driven by perfectionism, motherhood taught me the beauty of surrender. To the mess, the newness, the journey.
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 195 min read
10 Things I Tell People All The Time: How Self-Compassion and Boundaries Lead to Growth
Learn how setting boundaries, embracing self-compassion, and rejecting perfectionism can lead to healing, and a joyful and balanced.
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 313 min read
Frozen but Focused: How an Ice Bath Taught Me to Master My Mind
It was less about surrendering to the water, and more about surrendering to the version of myself I wanted to be.
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 295 min read
Ice Baths: Plunging into fear to discover freedom
I was going to jump in, panic and jump into the hot tub next to it. A dramatic battle between my determination and my fear...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 235 min read
Breaking Free from the Cycle of Control: Overcoming People-Pleasing and Finding Inner Freedom
An exploration of how childhood control and people-pleasing behaviours affect adult relationships: discover steps to reclaim inner peace
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 97 min read
Feeling Overwhelm: How to Sit with Emptiness
Imagine discovering a well of wisdom within you, accessible only when you allow yourself to be vulnerable and present with your emptiness.
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 25 min read
From Pain to Peace: Navigating Grief When Boundaries End Relationships
Two years ago, I set a gentle boundary with a significant person in my life. During our last encounter, they made a comment about my...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 23, 20237 min read
Awakening the Power of Conscious Choice: Embracing Transformation
I woke up to familiar white walls, sunshine pouring in through the window. An empty feeling inside as I busied myself getting ready for...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 14, 20234 min read
What do boundaries sound like?
So what boundaries sound like?
Having a few phrases that you familiarise yourself with can be life changing - it can help you to stay calm
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 1, 20234 min read
From Comparison to Confidence: Rebuilding Your Self Worth
Bodies, money, houses, cars, success - we are all living in a world where the perfect life is being constantly shared to us, either by...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 11, 20213 min read
Running marathons and holding onto goals that make me feel bad
How do blurry boundaries impact your goals? Have you ever seen a picture of someone else doing something: they are smiling wide into the...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 28, 20216 min read
Are you open to receiving joy?
Rejecting joy is a specific form of self-sabotage. It is messy and crosses over many self-sabotaging behaviour and self-limiting beliefs,...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 21, 20215 min read
A letter to parents facing an early diagnosis of cystic hygroma in a pregnancy
Dear parents, After scouring the internet for medical papers with potential or positive information, you may find yourselves faced with...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Oct 1, 20205 min read
Choosing to Trust: 3 lessons I learnt about trust after heartbreak
Over the years we may have learnt trust can be hard, because we have seen it - and sometimes felt it - shatter so many times. How do we...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Sep 10, 20206 min read
How to support someone who is feeling suicidal
There is still a huge stigma around suicide, that is felt not only by those experiencing suicidal thoughts, but also by the loved ones...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 14, 20205 min read
Motivational quotes around COVID-19 and why they are making me so angry
A month ago we were in a collective panic, denial, fear – our supermarket shelves were empty and people’s sense of anxiety and fear had...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 2, 20205 min read
9 ways to feel calmer in under 5 minutes
In today's world of constant news, change and readjustment, it is likely that you are carrying far more tension around in your body than...
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Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Mar 29, 20204 min read
Hating how they chew and 10 helpful conflict resolution strategies
Divorce rates in China have spiked following self-isolation. Have you ever spent 24 hours solidly with you partner day after day? By now...
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