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Lola Jane Thorne: Writing

A True Legacy - Grieving in Estranged Families
I had a few days in a row where I saw quite a few foxes. I felt quite bonded to them. I was savouring each moment I saw one. It felt like...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Nov 21, 20247 min read
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Nurturing Your Inner Voice: Transforming Criticism into Compassion
Transform your inner critic into a supportive voice. Through self-compassion and reparenting, set self-boundaries that nurture.
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 29, 202410 min read
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A Love Note to Mamas: Embracing Motherhood Through Surrender and Finding Peace
In a world where motherhood is driven by perfectionism, motherhood taught me the beauty of surrender. To the mess, the newness, the journey.
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 20, 20242 min read
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10 Things I Tell People All The Time: How Self-Compassion and Boundaries Lead to Growth
Learn how setting boundaries, embracing self-compassion, and rejecting perfectionism can lead to healing, and a joyful and balanced.
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 19, 20245 min read
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Frozen but Focused: How an Ice Bath Taught Me to Master My Mind
It was less about surrendering to the water, and more about surrendering to the version of myself I wanted to be.
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 1, 20243 min read
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Ice Baths: Plunging into fear to discover freedom
I was going to jump in, panic and jump into the hot tub next to it. A dramatic battle between my determination and my fear...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 30, 20245 min read
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Breaking Free from the Cycle of Control: Overcoming People-Pleasing and Finding Inner Freedom
An exploration of how childhood control and people-pleasing behaviours affect adult relationships: discover steps to reclaim inner peace
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 23, 20245 min read
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Feeling Overwhelm: How to Sit with Emptiness
Imagine discovering a well of wisdom within you, accessible only when you allow yourself to be vulnerable and present with your emptiness.
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 9, 20247 min read
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From Pain to Peace: Navigating Grief When Boundaries End Relationships
Two years ago, I set a gentle boundary with a significant person in my life. During our last encounter, they made a comment about my...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jul 2, 20245 min read
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Awakening the Power of Conscious Choice: Embracing Transformation
I woke up to familiar white walls, sunshine pouring in through the window. An empty feeling inside as I busied myself getting ready for...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 23, 20237 min read
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What do boundaries sound like?
So what boundaries sound like?
Having a few phrases that you familiarise yourself with can be life changing - it can help you to stay calm
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 14, 20234 min read
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From Comparison to Confidence: Rebuilding Your Self Worth
Bodies, money, houses, cars, success - we are all living in a world where the perfect life is being constantly shared to us, either by...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Jun 1, 20234 min read
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Running marathons and holding onto goals that make me feel bad
How do blurry boundaries impact your goals? Have you ever seen a picture of someone else doing something: they are smiling wide into the...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Aug 11, 20213 min read
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Are you open to receiving joy?
Rejecting joy is a specific form of self-sabotage. It is messy and crosses over many self-sabotaging behaviour and self-limiting beliefs,...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 28, 20216 min read
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A letter to parents facing an early diagnosis of cystic hygroma in a pregnancy
Dear parents, After scouring the internet for medical papers with potential or positive information, you may find yourselves faced with...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 21, 20215 min read
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Choosing to Trust: 3 lessons I learnt about trust after heartbreak
Over the years we may have learnt trust can be hard, because we have seen it - and sometimes felt it - shatter so many times. How do we...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Oct 1, 20205 min read
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How to support someone who is feeling suicidal
There is still a huge stigma around suicide, that is felt not only by those experiencing suicidal thoughts, but also by the loved ones...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Sep 10, 20206 min read
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Motivational quotes around COVID-19 and why they are making me so angry
A month ago we were in a collective panic, denial, fear – our supermarket shelves were empty and people’s sense of anxiety and fear had...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 14, 20205 min read
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9 ways to feel calmer in under 5 minutes
In today's world of constant news, change and readjustment, it is likely that you are carrying far more tension around in your body than...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Apr 2, 20205 min read
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Hating how they chew and 10 helpful conflict resolution strategies
Divorce rates in China have spiked following self-isolation. Have you ever spent 24 hours solidly with you partner day after day? By now...
Lola Thorne: The Messy Empowerment Coach for Perfectionists
Mar 29, 20204 min read
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